After grounding, which we have learned needs to be constantly renewing at all times (Root Chakra), shielding is the most common practice to protect yourself from negatively charged energies in your environment. Everyone is always trying to achieve their goals, working towards their desires, their energy radiating from them to accomplish what they want. To avoid being manipulated by other’s goals and wills you ust become adept at shielding to protect the boundaries of your own reality. Otherwise you may fall into becoming confused or compromised by other people’s wills and be unable to work on your own. Examples of this can be seen daily where someone’s will has been completely overridden or consumed by someone else. Healthy boundaries are what makes a person whole. No one else can tell you what yours are, because this is your life to live. You must decide what’s best for you.
Setting boundaries is the first step in creating your reality and ensuring your will is achieved. You decide what is acceptable in your world, and have every right to expect everyone who interacts with you to respect your decisions. When someone compromises what you have established, they are not only disrespecting you but imposing their will on yours, intentional or not. You need to stand up for yourself to not be controlled by others. It is vital to learn your own self-respect, worth, and personal power to be able to define your own reality.
This encompasses all aspects: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. Do not accept abuse of any kind, though it can be hard to spot certain kinds. If anyone does anything to you that you do not like, enjoy, feel comfortable with, or causes you pain and anguish you have every right to stop that person from doing so. If they are controlling, manipulating, or forcing their will on you, even if they are being nice about it, they may as well be attacking you. Because as above, so below – if they are using you on any plane, the results would be the same on every other plane. It is right to protect yourself from any kind of abuse, not just the physical.
When you establish boundaries you are protecting yourself. If someone crosses a boundary, you must be willing to defend it, otherwise you are giving that person permission to exert their will on yours. They are not taking your personal power, you are giving it away. As an adult you are always capable of defending your boundaries however unwilling you may be to do so.
Many of us have unclear or compromised boundaries because of cultural and societal rules: “Good girls are nice.” “Don’t hurt people’s feelings.” “Getting angry is wrong.” “Saying no makes us a bad person.” We would rather stand by and allow someone to take advantage of us because we don’t want to be thought of as a mean person. Or we might accidentally take advantage of someone else and get our feelings hurt or cry foul when they stop us.
You may feel as if your boundaries are unreasonable or you have no right to set them, or that defending them is rude. A past trauma may lead us to believe this, and is a cycle where people with compromised boundaries will attempt to compromise the boundaries of others. The best way to help someone with compromised boundaries is to maintain your own. In the effort to “be nice” we may allow someone to break a boundary and be unable to protect ourselves form unwanted behavior. We may then begin to ignore it, overlook it, rationalize it or simply put up with it. In truth, when you are put in a position to have to defend yourself, it is important to remember we do not need to be rude or aggressive. You can say “No.” You can ask someone to stop treating you a certain way, and not react in anger or any emotional way. Just respectfully point out your boundary, and expect it to be respected.
You may feel that you will not be liked if you have healthy boundaries. This is simply untrue -people like whom they can respect. They will not like those that they feel they can manipulate or control. They may use someone to achieve their own ends, but will not personally care or like that person. Trust and respect are foundational to relationships. Without them, things start to break down internally. If you can not trust someone to honor their own boundaries, you can’t trust them to honor yours. You will have a difficult time respecting someone you can’t trust, and you will be unable to love someone whom you can’t respect.
Another way to establish control of your own life is setting priorities. Everything in life has a price. Sometimes we do things we don’t want to do to get something that we do want. You must not allow other people to take advantage of you or tell you who you are or what you want. What does not enter your reality does not exist. By establishing your own priorities you are better able to achieve the goals you have set before yourself. You control what happens in your world. You allow everyone in your life, to do whatever it is they do. You get something in return for each relationship. If someone does something you dislike, examine why you have chosen to deal with this behavior. What is it teaching you? Does it serve you or betray your self-respect?
If you believe negatively about yourself, how can you argue against someone treating you badly? Once you put a stop to this behavior and take control of your own life and boundaries, you can begin to feel safe and start manifesting your will on your reality.
Shielding happens at all levels at the same time, and by having a strong grasp of your boundaries, a good eye on your priorities you can start to establish good shields that do not allow negatively charged energy to effect you.
As above so below. If you learn to train your thoughts to protect yourself, you will find it easier to establish and maintain your boundaries. Your aura is a natural shield, but enhancing on it will go a long way. Visualize a light yellow bubble around you, but make the bubble something strong and durable… whatever you can visualize will work. You should practice maintaining this energetic shield at all times, in different situations. Eventually you will have a gentle filter at all times, but a stronger shield can naturally arise when needed like a second nature.