We have all heard of the concept of unconditional love, but through our expectations, attachments, and at times inability to forgive (even ourselves) it can be very hard to put this into practice. Learning to understand our expectations, monitor our attachments, and forgive is a part of learning to love unconditionally. Understanding that we can not or should not control another person’s reactions, feelings, or choices in life is a long lesson in understanding our own selves.
Everyone has needs and lessons they are trying to fulfill. Understanding yours will help you understand others. Expanding what you have learned through acceptance of everyone’s freedom to have their own reality can assist you in forgiving their mistakes. We’re all human, we’re all in this together, and no one is getting out ‘alive’ in this incarnation. Remember, allow yourself your own limitations, understand your own mistakes, and forgive and love yourself unconditionally so that you may share that with others.
When you love someone (or even yourself) unconditionally, you do not base your love or affection on whether or not they meet your expectations, react in ways you are attached to, or even feel a certain way. They are free to be themselves, to make their own choices, mistakes, and successes. Being supportive of those around you as you each help each other through the lessons you each chose to accept this incarnation is key to learning and keeping your heart chakra open and clear.
People still make mistakes, or may tell you lies when they are struggling with a throat chakra issue, hurt you deliberately or carelessly, and being human we may become angry with them. Examining your anger, coming to terms with what happened, re-establishing your boundaries, and learning to forgive them for everything that they do or say is the goal of understanding yourself and who you are as a person. You feel how you feel, but it is what you do with your own feelings that counts.